Grief

The last couple of posts have been a little eccentric, so let’s try to get it back on familiar footing shall we?

 

A friend recently said something along the lines of; “Your ability to love is related to your ability to hurt.”  Another paraphrased that to; “Your capacity for hurt is equal to your capacity for love.  While those thoughts are close I believe they miss the mark a bit. 

Try this; “Your depth of grief is directly related to your depth of love.” … read that again, “Your depth of grief is directly related to your depth of love.”

They say the greatest grief is the passing of a spouse; loved deeply the loss is deeply grieved.  The loss of a child is greater.  I remember my grandmother at the funeral of my uncle, her youngest son, she held my elbow and with her beautiful grey eyes filled with tears overflowing said; “We are not made to bury our children.”  Loved deeply, his passing was deeply grieved.  

Conversely, the aunt of an acquaintance passed away recently, and while I could understand his grief, I had none.  I didn’t even know the woman’s name, my depth of grief was minuscule, little love meant little grief.

In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God. He was in the beginning with God. All things were made through Him, and without Him nothing was made that was made.  — John 1:1-3 (NKJV)1

For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life.  For God did not send His Son into the world to condemn the world, but that the world through Him might be saved. — John 3:16-17 (NKJV)1

The next day John saw Jesus coming toward him, and said, “Behold! The Lamb of God who takes away the sin of the world!  — John 1:29 (NKJV)1

For there is born to you this day in the city of David a Savior, who is Christ the Lord. –Luke 2:11 (NKJV)1

Jesus, the Word, the Creator Word, made flesh, so loved us that He CHOSE to put aside the adoration of all heaven, He CHOSE to put aside His rightful place on the throne of His creation, He CHOSE to empty Himself and pull on the frail stinking skin of a man, He CHOSE the lash, He CHOSE the nails, He CHOSE the cross, He CHOSE the cup filled to overflowing with my sin.  He did so because he would rather die than be separated from us, and He desires all men to be saved and to come to the knowledge of the truth.  His depth of love is matched by His depth of grief for the lost, the far away, the hopeless, the unlovable …

“Christian”   …   “Christ-like”   …   “Follower” …

He is grieved for the lost   …   am I? 

Is my heart broken for those running flat out to destruction?  Am I saddened at all by one lost to eternity?  My depth of grief is directly related to my depth of love.  In order to grieve for them like Him I must love them like He loved them, sacrifice for them as He did … not judge them, avoid them, ridicule them, complain about their imposition into ‘my’ rights … but just love them … like He does.

For He made Him who knew no sin to be sin for us, that we might become the righteousness of God in Him. –2 Corinthians 5:21 (NKJV)1

Behold what manner of love the Father has bestowed on us, that we should be called children of God! –1John 3:1 (NKJV)1
See what great love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God! And that is what we are! –1John 3:1 (NIV)
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“If sinners be damned, at least let them leap to Hell over our dead bodies. And if they perish, let them perish with our arms wrapped about their knees, imploring them to stay. If Hell must be filled, let it be filled in the teeth of our exertions, and let not one go unwarned and unprayed for.”  ― Charles H. Spurgeon

 


1 “Scripture taken from the New King James Version. Copyright © 1982 by Thomas Nelson, Inc. Used by permission. All rights reserved.”
2 “Holy Bible, New International Version®, NIV® Copyright © 1973, 1978, 1984, 2011 by Biblica, Inc.® Used by permission. All rights reserved worldwide.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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